Thanks, Cynthia. It’s a challenge, isn’t it? You are very wise.
]]>It’s wise to know what to keep to ourselves, and when the time is ripe for bringing it forth (if ever). Thanks for writing, Heidi!
]]>Such differences between your girls. I have pieces for my blog that I have put away and hope to share someday, when my daughter can be proud of my writing not upset. For now I share other parts of the mothering adventure on my blog, and get to read yours!
]]>Thanks, Gloria. Not quite as rough as Tsar Nicolas II had it!
]]>Thanks, Carol. I’m so glad you like it. My mother lived through me vicariously, and I loved our closeness before I realized its downsides. It was quite a shock to my system to have a daughter with such different privacy settings, and it was often painful until I realized this was who she was and that it wasn’t personal–even that it was healthier than what I’d had with my mother. I wish your mother had been more patient with who you are too.
]]>Thanks, Heidi. It’s tricky to negotiate the appropriate space with these private daughters, isn’t it? I shared this essay with “Emma” long after I had written it, when she was maturing out of the need to be so intensely private, and after we had had some important heart-to-hearts at her initiative about having a more authentic relationship. She does not routinely read my blog, though her younger sister does. Writing about one’s intimates is always so dicey. When I asked my daughters how they felt about it, “Emma” said, “I don’t care what you write as long as I don’t have to read it.” “Ally,” on the other hand, said, “I don’t care what you write as long as I get a cut.”
]]>Does she read your blog? How does she react to posts about her? My daughter had not been thrilled.
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