Comments on: Lurking with Intent to Mope

By: shrinkrapped

shrinkrapped — Mon, 02 Mar 2015 05:03:16 +0000

In reply to hbksloss. Thanks for writing, Heidi. Really great observations. It seems whatever our issues, they always find a way to sneak back in just when we think we've tamed them. Yoga and meditation sound like useful antidotes--good luck! As for me, I'll probably just go back to lurking/moping.

By: hbksloss

hbksloss — Sat, 28 Feb 2015 08:44:06 +0000

I loved this: “Cancer is like a white-hot brush fire that burns away neurosis, leaving in its wake a deep appreciation and sharpened clarity about what matters. For a while, at least, it becomes very clear that life is just too short for lurking with intent to mope.” For me though it isn’t moping as much as it is the perfectionist inside me. Right after my cancer (or my husband’s) I was able to tame my inner (obnoxious) perfectionist. But those events were in 1984 and 1997, respectively.

Last year I started really dealing with her, especially after my accident on November. I thought I had her pretty much under control until we put our home on the market this past week and out she came with gusto.

If I were to give something up for Lent it would be my need to “be” or present myself as perfect. What a crock of baloney that i feed myself that she can be controlled. Instead I need to figure out a way of accepting, forgiving and then excising. Back to the yoga mat and meditation practice I go!

By: shrinkrapped

shrinkrapped — Fri, 20 Feb 2015 04:21:33 +0000

In reply to roughwighting. Yes, it is a great quote, isn't it? I tend to think of moping as more related to character style than age, but you've got a point about how one's time perspective shifts. Thanks for writing!

By: roughwighting

roughwighting — Fri, 20 Feb 2015 03:05:02 +0000

What a great quote! I think young people mope more than the middle-aged, don’t you? I remember how sloooowww time was back when I was in my teens and younger. Much more time to mope back then, when time didn’t seem as meaningful as it does now, when it marches way too fast.

By: shrinkrapped

shrinkrapped — Fri, 20 Feb 2015 00:35:06 +0000

In reply to Teri Stevens. Thanks, Teri. You are undertaking a lot! Maybe it would be easier to give up chocolate. Deep, heavy sighing sounds like a very useful thing with three little kids.

By: Teri Stevens

Teri Stevens — Thu, 19 Feb 2015 17:36:33 +0000

This is great Lorrie and so true. Having first hand experience, “Cancer is like a white-hot brush fire that burns away neurosis.” Well said.

I’ve decided to give up my harried words to my husband when the kids are taking all of my attention and the poor man asks something when they are in the midst of wanting, needing, asking, crying, etc. That and my deep, heavy sighs, which I never used to do before the three kids.