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Comments on: Good News, Bad News https://shrinkrapped.com/?p=941 A mid-life shrink raps about life, friendship, psychology, and politics Tue, 07 Apr 2015 21:44:58 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.5.2 By: shrinkrapped https://shrinkrapped.com/?p=941&cpage=1#comment-1146 Sun, 05 Apr 2015 00:21:59 +0000 http://r9f.352.myftpupload.com/?p=941#comment-1146 In reply to Kate Johnston.

Thank you, Kate. I don’t know how you found me, but I’m glad you did, because I really like your blog. I’m also glad you grasped the complexities of my choice, and the importance of tuning in to one’s intuition.

]]> By: Kate Johnston https://shrinkrapped.com/?p=941&cpage=1#comment-1140 Sat, 04 Apr 2015 15:50:39 +0000 http://r9f.352.myftpupload.com/?p=941#comment-1140 Your story shows that neither choice is easy, and that neither choice gives you relief from the unknown. I believe that deep down we always know the right or best thing to do, and that when we’re ready, we will do what needs to be done. Wishing you the best.

]]> By: shrinkrapped https://shrinkrapped.com/?p=941&cpage=1#comment-1119 Wed, 01 Apr 2015 20:01:04 +0000 http://r9f.352.myftpupload.com/?p=941#comment-1119 In reply to hbksloss.

“But when I allow myself to hear my own true voice, and then trust that voice, I have felt better about my decisions.” Heidi, you are so wise. I not only appreciate your always thoughtful and kind comments, but that you get it. Thanks for sharing.

]]> By: hbksloss https://shrinkrapped.com/?p=941&cpage=1#comment-1111 Wed, 01 Apr 2015 06:54:24 +0000 http://r9f.352.myftpupload.com/?p=941#comment-1111 It is very easy for people to offer opinions when they haven’t had to face making a decision like this for themselves. Each of us faces our life, our bodies and our mortality in a unique and individual way. Over the years I have received so many opinions on such personal life passages and when I have followed others ‘ advise, over my own counsel, it had most always left me ambivalent. But when I allow myself to hear my own true voice, and then trust that voice, I have felt better about my decisions. It sounds like you found your voice and most importantly listened to it! It doesn’t matter what others think, only you know what is right for you. Yes you may regret this decision, but you might have come to regret the other one as well.

Thank you for sharing your story. I tweeted out the Salon piece as well as your post on Shrinkrapped

]]> By: shrinkrapped https://shrinkrapped.com/?p=941&cpage=1#comment-1110 Tue, 31 Mar 2015 21:01:20 +0000 http://r9f.352.myftpupload.com/?p=941#comment-1110 In reply to Nancy Gump.

Thanks, Nancy. I didn’t find out about the gene till cancer forced the question! And yes: Knowledge is power, but ignorance is bliss!

]]> By: shrinkrapped https://shrinkrapped.com/?p=941&cpage=1#comment-1109 Tue, 31 Mar 2015 20:59:54 +0000 http://r9f.352.myftpupload.com/?p=941#comment-1109 In reply to Jilanne Hoffmann.

Thanks, Jilanne. The Zen story is apt. I think of my piece as a meditation on uncertainty. There is something about what we can’t see that makes it particularly alarming, and I appreciate the position you’re in, too.

]]> By: Jilanne Hoffmann https://shrinkrapped.com/?p=941&cpage=1#comment-1107 Tue, 31 Mar 2015 17:11:03 +0000 http://r9f.352.myftpupload.com/?p=941#comment-1107 Your post reminds me of the Zen story about not knowing if something is good luck or bad luck until you know what follows. Whatever the response, it seems like a highly personal decision. Best wishes on your surveillance. I have had squamous cell moles removed from my face and spend quite a bit of time monitoring my skin. Trying to do this for internal changes seems much more difficult.

]]> By: Nancy Gump https://shrinkrapped.com/?p=941&cpage=1#comment-1105 Tue, 31 Mar 2015 16:00:47 +0000 http://r9f.352.myftpupload.com/?p=941#comment-1105 Thanks Lorrie for eloquently expressing what it is to be faced with a choice between two unwanted alternatives. And Kudos to you for your courage to find out about the gene. I’ve always believed it is better to know than not to know, nonetheless the phrase ignorance is bliss comes to mind in my weaker moments…

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