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Sherry Turkle, a sociologist and psychologist who studies the impact of technology on relationships, wrote<\/a> recently<\/a> about the need for face-to-face conversation in a world increasingly dominated by texting and smartphones. It is through this \u201ctalking cure\u201d that we build empathy, intimacy, and self-reflection, coming to know ourselves and others deeply.<\/p>\n Turkle wasn\u2019t talking about Freud, but she was describing the mainstay of psychotherapy.<\/p>\n Soon after Turkle\u2019s essay appeared, new research questioning the efficacy of talk therapy in treating depression made headlines<\/a>. That same day, I listened to a podcast<\/a> about Dr. James O\u2019Connell, who has been providing healthcare to Boston\u2019s homeless population since 1985.<\/p>\n O\u2019Connell\u2019s approach is more art than science.\u00a0 He described having to unlearn the techniques and arrogance he\u2019d perfected as an ER doctor when he took a job at a homeless shelter. The nurses, unimpressed with his skills, advised him to keep quiet about his medical expertise. They instructed O\u2019Connell to spend his first two months doing nothing but soaking the feet of those living on the street.<\/p>\n \u201cDon\u2019t judge, these people have been through hell,\u201d the nurses told him. \u201cYou will not gain anyone\u2019s trust without being present.\u201d<\/p>\n O\u2019Connell spoke of the profound isolation and loneliness as well as the tremendous courage and resourcefulness of the men and women he came to know in his decades on the street. He believes the adversity they experienced would have broken him. This knowledge is fundamental to engaging in such hard work:<\/p>\n \u201cWe\u2019re all broken in our own way,\u201d O\u2019Connell says. \u201cIt\u2019s a connection with that brokenness that actually keeps us going.\u201d<\/p>\n O\u2019Connell\u2019s words took me back to what inspired me to become a therapist: volunteering at a crisis hotline.<\/p>\n I had never before encountered the level of adversity our callers faced\u2014poverty, abuse, addiction, chronic mental illness. Like O\u2019Connell, I was awed by the courage and dignity of those whose lives were unimaginably precarious. The work was hard, but I loved it\u2014the listening, the immediacy of the connection, feeling that my presence made a difference. Nothing much changed in anyone\u2019s life, mine or theirs. Yet everything changed because we mattered to one another.<\/p>\n This is the essence of therapy. Our work is a modest endeavor–a conversation, a space of undivided, unhurried attention and exploration. The talking cure depends on humility and presence. These are the ineffable, unmeasurable things that matter\u2014on the streets, in conversation, and in psychotherapy.<\/p>\n *<\/p>\n \u00a0How\u00a0do you preserve conversation in a technology-obsessed world?\u00a0What is the essence of presence for you?<\/em><\/p>\n *<\/p>\n (Originally published in Impulse<\/a><\/em>, the electronic newsletter of the Northern California Society for Psychoanalytic Psychology)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Sherry Turkle, a sociologist and psychologist who studies the impact of technology on relationships, wrote recently about the need for face-to-face conversation in a world increasingly dominated by texting and smartphones. It is through this \u201ctalking cure\u201d that we build … Continue reading